Tuesday, 17 October 2017

Why you need to talk about mental health

Hey guys hope you are well,  today I'm going to discuss something that I have done a few times through the years on my blog and I feel that I need to again as it's as subject that's not going to go away and I think the more it's discussed the more the taboo will break hopefully and that people can reach out and talk. Now the reason and focus on this is obviously we have had a day recently hashtag mental health world day where a lot of attention was brought to this subject, which is in fact brilliant but then once that day goes and everything settles what then? What can people do? Who can they talk to and can we indentify it in friends colleagues and family. 
Locally where I live 3 young men have recently took there own lives, not related not friends and all early twenties and under.  Two of them had a child or children and one had left for work and didn't return home.  The one who had left for work had apparently left for work as normal quite happy and didn't say a word to his partner that he felt down or depressed and seemingly to the outside world had everything.  But he must have been suffering with some sort of anguish or pain and maybe couldn't tell anyone who knows but now awful for that family and friends to go through all that pain to.
So that's what has prompt me to write again as I know through my own experience how much mental health can affect you and not just you but the people around you.  Mental health is my illness that I have to deal with everyday it affects my confidence my ability sometimes to do my job well and even now I cope with my colleagues peers and family. What I often struggle with is perceptions of me from people who don't know me but make the assumption that as I wear makeup and do my hair that I am a fully functioning secure adult, whereas if I had a broken leg or an open wound people would say ah I can see your injuries hope you recover and get well, but as mental illness depression or any other type of mental illness is unseen it's often mistaken for nothing.  I find that still really hard to deal with and I'm so sure many of you do to. People don't realise the battle that it is to get out of bed some days as you may not have slept all night as your mind may have been working overtime causing you not to sleep or when it is time to get up, you genuinely cannot get the strength to do it.  For me I hate doing the school run in the afternoon after work the thought of going into that school yard with all those parents fills me with dread, I also sometimes hate even going food shopping and I've left my trolley in the shop full of food and walked out, some of the people who know me but not well think that's absurd but it's not. 
I also really feel for children and teenagers to nowadays and as I've mentioned young adults, children and teenagers have so much pressure on them now to be a certain way or look a certain way even from a young age, I can remember as a kid literally having a laugh and roaming the streets till it was dusk but the kids nowadays can't do that.  I'm not blaming it but I don't think social media helps, if you child or teen has Instagram or Facebook and posts selfies and doesn't get many likes etc or comments sometimes I know it can leave a child or teen feeling a bit bruised in the pride sense, or if people make personal comments such as pointing out your flaws which ok you know you have but don't necessary what reminding of can leave you feeling low and denting your feelings. 
Not only that tests for young kids and exams can really cause stress in young people, for youngsters to help you can access Youngminds for support and advice. 

But all I can say is if you feel isolated or alone please talk to someone, a parent, a friend, a teacher a tutor, a doctor anyone who can listen or if you don't have that added support because not everyone is lucky enough to have that go to www.mind.org.uk it's so so important to talk. 

Also if you feel so down alone and helpless what I do sometimes is get a piece of paper and list all the bad things I feel and then the good things, don't get me wrong sometimes the bad list is long but then when I analyse the good I feel guilty and my mind makes me focus on that good, so if you feel like that and you can look at even one good thing on your list then concentrate on that, if you can't out one good thing on your list you need to go to the doctors or try to do something for you, you are so important special and worthwhile.  
And if you get any feelings of self doubt and self worth please tell someone your not a fool your amazing. 

Saturday, 14 October 2017

Woods of Windsor The Gardeners Collection*

Hey guys hope your are well on this lovely Autumnal day, I literally haven't stopped today up at the crack of dawn to take my daughter to work, then football in a wet muddy field joy, and then I came home washed the car tidied my garden and then took my other son and his friend to the skating rink I'm exhausted.  Who said that the weekends were relaxing.  
Anyway in the week I was really kindly sent a package from the lovely people at woodsofwindsor who sent me three products from there Gardeners Collection. I make no secret of loving lovely things and skincare and beauty products and makeup is right up there so an excited kid in a sweet shop strings to mind.  
So the first item il introduce you to is the Blackberry & Tyne Moisturising Hand Wash, coming in an attractive yet classy bottle which would look nice in your kitchen, the wash is infused with fragrance of Blackberry and Thyme with a combination of green tea and ripe blackberry, white Jasmine enhanced with musk and Amber.  The highlight is the antibacterial healing thyme oil and anti oxidants that help protect the hands so your hands are left clean soft and freshly fragranced. 



Next is the Exfoliating Hand Scrub enriched with the same ingredients as the wash, this differs as obviously it's an exfoliator and contains pumice to cleanse and remove dirt, so if your an outdoor type of person, a keen Gardner which I'm not but I do to it, who ends up with there hands filthy and in my case stained with grass and all sorts this is brilliant for scrubbing all this gross stuff off, but leaving your hands soft and clean but also smelling nice and fresh,  this isint something I would use every time I washed my hands but definitely after doing something that involved my hands taking a battering where they needed some extra help.

And last but not least is the Nourishing Hand Cream this one again has similar ingredients do its other counterparts but contains Shea butter which I love, what is a hand cream without Shea butter.  To me and I'm sure most people who enjoy hand cream Shea butter is the key to softening the skin, so  if you are patient and are keen to look after and care for your hands using this after the exfoliator is great because after scrubbing away any dead skin from your hands and making sure they are clean this makes way for the hand cream to soak into your hands and really give them a nice treat.  

Who are Woods of Windsor they are a brand that has been around for actually around the time I became alive cough cough. They are a brand that has created a beautiful range of fragrances and bath luxuries for you to enjoy for yourself or as a gift.  I actually think this set would make a lovely gift as it not only looks lovely but also smells gorgeous and feels like a treat. This range re-launched in 2016 with new packaging which reflects what Windsor is all about.  I always feel quite posh when I got to Windsor for so many reasons and it's probably due to the castle the flying aircraft overhead and the shops.

This range is also reasonably priced with everything here all being each product under £10 I bet you didn't expect that.

Hope you enjoyed this post 
*this post contains press samples 

Laura x

Sunday, 1 October 2017

Darphin 8 Flower Nectar Review

Hello guys it's October now yay.....or nay depending on whether you love winter or summer.  I love summer but I also like autumn winter time, cosy jumpers and boots are nice plus candles burning in the living room.  As much as all that goes on the winter time is not great for your skin and I would step up with the skincare in other words don't neglect it layer layer layer.
If you work in and office cold climates all this literally play havoc with the skin and all the dry patches blotches and flaking skin come into play.  This is enough to make you want to cry but you can help to stop this.
Months ago Escentual a site I buy some skincare of had a big sale where they had money off French skincare so I decided to buy the Darphin 8 flower Nectsr, I was taking a risk as I had never sampled it and I was a little skeptical would it be worth it, would it be good for my skin, would it break me out did I have to worry read on and you'll find out.

The Darphin 8 flower oil is made up of 8 flowers being precious ones like Ylang Ylang, Patchouli,Neroli,Rose Damascena,Immortelle,Jasmine,Iris.   So full of beautiful natural ingredients to soothe and condition your skin.  The benefits of this oil are it helps smooth the look of lines and wrinkles and helps to firm the skin.  To use I use this after my serum and before my moisturiser sometimes I actually use it after a very thin layer of moisturiser so it's my last step before bed, I do this as the smell of this oil is literally gorgeous beautiful and so relaxing.  It's not heavy over powering or sickly it really is nice and a great treat before bed as I struggle to sleep but for some reason this helps me drop off.

Now in the morning I kid you not my skin feels plumped up healthy and glowing and looks clear and radiant I really promise it's got to be this oil it's literally amazing.

The only negative thing I have to say is I don't like the fact that this bottle of oil has no dropper for you to use, to use 5 drops of this I have to literally pour it into my palm and I take my time as I cannot even face the thought of wasting this.   Please put a dropper in, it's much better.

This doesn't come cheap if you don't buy it with any offers on its literally a gulp moment luckily I did and I've just searched and you get it in lookfantastic where there is £32.50 off which makes a big difference.