Tuesday, 17 October 2017

Why you need to talk about mental health

Hey guys hope you are well,  today I'm going to discuss something that I have done a few times through the years on my blog and I feel that I need to again as it's as subject that's not going to go away and I think the more it's discussed the more the taboo will break hopefully and that people can reach out and talk. Now the reason and focus on this is obviously we have had a day recently hashtag mental health world day where a lot of attention was brought to this subject, which is in fact brilliant but then once that day goes and everything settles what then? What can people do? Who can they talk to and can we indentify it in friends colleagues and family. 
Locally where I live 3 young men have recently took there own lives, not related not friends and all early twenties and under.  Two of them had a child or children and one had left for work and didn't return home.  The one who had left for work had apparently left for work as normal quite happy and didn't say a word to his partner that he felt down or depressed and seemingly to the outside world had everything.  But he must have been suffering with some sort of anguish or pain and maybe couldn't tell anyone who knows but now awful for that family and friends to go through all that pain to.
So that's what has prompt me to write again as I know through my own experience how much mental health can affect you and not just you but the people around you.  Mental health is my illness that I have to deal with everyday it affects my confidence my ability sometimes to do my job well and even now I cope with my colleagues peers and family. What I often struggle with is perceptions of me from people who don't know me but make the assumption that as I wear makeup and do my hair that I am a fully functioning secure adult, whereas if I had a broken leg or an open wound people would say ah I can see your injuries hope you recover and get well, but as mental illness depression or any other type of mental illness is unseen it's often mistaken for nothing.  I find that still really hard to deal with and I'm so sure many of you do to. People don't realise the battle that it is to get out of bed some days as you may not have slept all night as your mind may have been working overtime causing you not to sleep or when it is time to get up, you genuinely cannot get the strength to do it.  For me I hate doing the school run in the afternoon after work the thought of going into that school yard with all those parents fills me with dread, I also sometimes hate even going food shopping and I've left my trolley in the shop full of food and walked out, some of the people who know me but not well think that's absurd but it's not. 
I also really feel for children and teenagers to nowadays and as I've mentioned young adults, children and teenagers have so much pressure on them now to be a certain way or look a certain way even from a young age, I can remember as a kid literally having a laugh and roaming the streets till it was dusk but the kids nowadays can't do that.  I'm not blaming it but I don't think social media helps, if you child or teen has Instagram or Facebook and posts selfies and doesn't get many likes etc or comments sometimes I know it can leave a child or teen feeling a bit bruised in the pride sense, or if people make personal comments such as pointing out your flaws which ok you know you have but don't necessary what reminding of can leave you feeling low and denting your feelings. 
Not only that tests for young kids and exams can really cause stress in young people, for youngsters to help you can access Youngminds for support and advice. 

But all I can say is if you feel isolated or alone please talk to someone, a parent, a friend, a teacher a tutor, a doctor anyone who can listen or if you don't have that added support because not everyone is lucky enough to have that go to www.mind.org.uk it's so so important to talk. 

Also if you feel so down alone and helpless what I do sometimes is get a piece of paper and list all the bad things I feel and then the good things, don't get me wrong sometimes the bad list is long but then when I analyse the good I feel guilty and my mind makes me focus on that good, so if you feel like that and you can look at even one good thing on your list then concentrate on that, if you can't out one good thing on your list you need to go to the doctors or try to do something for you, you are so important special and worthwhile.  
And if you get any feelings of self doubt and self worth please tell someone your not a fool your amazing.